Speaking and Presenting

One of my passions is working within the Christian community to improve our communication about sexual wholeness. What does it mean to be sexually whole singles, couples and families? What does it mean to talk about sex and think about sex in a healthy and godly way? How do we talk to our spouses, our children, our friends, and ourselves about sexuality?

The Christian community has often struggled to discuss sexuality beyond encouraging one to abstain until marriage, or perhaps addressing the topic of male lust/porn use. There is often little discussion about how to be a sexually whole single person beyond the encouragement to remain sexually "pure". However, there is so much more to consider. I am not asexual, so what does it mean to be fully feminine and masculine as a single person? How do I manage my sexuality in the context of friendship? Dating relationships? What does sexual wholeness look like after a divorce? What do I do with my sexual desires?

And in truth, there is even less discussion on how to negotiate sex and your sexuality once you are in a marriage. What should I expect from my spouse? What is normal? How much sex should we have? What if things aren't going well? How does my sexuality connect with the rest of my marriage? How do I love my spouse well sexually? What do we do when we can't agree? How can we create a richer sex life?

And how do we create sexually whole families? What messages is our marriage portraying to our children about sex? How do we talk to our kids about sex? When? What do we teach them about their own bodies and how to talk to us about it? How do we keep open communication about such tough topics? How do we protect them?

I would love to join your organization, school group, Church, Sunday School, Small Group or Bible Study's conversation about sexual wholeness. Let me know if I can be of service.